“Most people’s lives are a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group”- Tony Robbins
There you go with some powerful words?
We are the perfect reflection of those we hang out with.
Who’s in your circle of Peer Group?
Who do you spend most of your time with?
I hangout mostly with my family. These are the people ‘am in most contact with everyday.
I would guess that most of you are the same, not to talk about the time you spend with your clients and mastermind friends.
Your real peer group are the people who not only you spend a bunch of your time with, but whose opinion and feelings you care about the most; These are the people that gives you the most grief if you mess up in anything
The people that you will travel with, eat with, laugh with and cry with.
These people have the greatest influence on our lives, if not to say on almost every aspect of our lives.
Let Me Ask You This
What are Your Expectations for yourself, your life and your business? Are they high enough to soar like an Eagle, or are they just average?
What are the Expectations of your Peer Group for their lives and business BUT more importantly, what are their expectations of you?
You see, if the expectations you have for your life and your business FAR EXCEED the expectations of those directly around you, you will have an uphill battle and this might make it difficult for you to believe yourself.
These People Pull You Down By Saying Words Like:
“You have been working on this business for 1 year now and it’s just not happening, maybe it’s time for you to  go get a real job” …
“You don’t need to go to that networking group, they have nothing to offer, you’re wasting you time”
“I don’t think there is anyone interested in what you have to offer, forget it, it’s hopeless” …
Or perhaps you have encountered your own versions of these from your own friends.
This people want you to quit because they are scared of what your success will mean for them. They could get left behind when things get better for you.
So if your peer group is bringing you down, then you need to shake them off now.
So what can you do?
Well if they are your family chances are you can’t get rid of them. If they are your “friends” then perhaps you can find yourself new friends to hang out with.
A Lesson I Learnt from A Frog …
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. So all the other frogs gathered around the pit, trying to get them out. When they saw how deep the pit was, they realized that it wouldn’t be possible for them to get them out so, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead, they can’t help.
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with full force, but the other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying , and gave up and dropped dead.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop trying. But this encouraged him to jump even harder and finally he made it out.
When he got out, the other frogs said, “Didn’t you hear what we said?” The frog explained to them that, he thought they were encouraging him the entire time and that gave him the power to keep jumping.
Your Persistence and Determination to succeed will ultimately bring you the success you desire.
People will criticize you and they will try and bring you down; they will try to make you quit when they see something as impossible. They might even shout at you to just give up.  It is your responsibility  NOT to listen to them. In fact, if you try hard enough and stay totally focused on the prize, you may not even hear their critics.
Be the Leader and Be an Example. Set a standard of what is possible in your life and business and measure what you can do based on what you can do, not what others think you can do. If you’re always measuring against someone else you will only push yourself so far. Always do more than anyone can expect from you. Michael Jordan competed with what his absolute best could be and for that there is no limit.
If you lead by example you will help others think more about what they can achieve in life too.
by iGrasshopper
Let Me Ask You This:
 Are your peer group jeering you up or pulling you down?
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Nice blog!
You’re so right about the small world around us has a much greater influence on our lives than the big world we live in.
Becoming an indedependent worker – self employed/freelancer/whatever! – is a massive leap of faith and skill that needs the support not just of our qualifications, knowledge and own motivation but also the recognition and support of those closest around us.
I was recently back in the UK with some friends for a weekend. It was wonderful to be with them, except for the massive seeds of doubt they felt they needed to plant. My family’s 5-year-plan is pretty sorted in our heads, but those back home still seem to think we’re going through a phase and we’ll be back in the UK as a family some time toon. Hmm.
It may be off the point a little, but I want it to prove the point that peers are very influential in everyone’s lives and really should support their friends, whatever choices they make.
I guess it’s something I hadn’t really seen because we live abroad and are a very close-knit family, drawing little on others for our motivation.
Thanks for this